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Comment on She stalks you … for twenty years. by Psyche

Psyche — Wed, 16 May 2012 11:28:14 +0000

Forgive me, I haven’t done much dating, but when you break up with somebody, aren’t you not supposed to have contact with the ex? Kinda defeats the whole purpose of a breakup, doesn’t it?

Comment on He’s a Nazi. by Leigh

Leigh — Thu, 10 May 2012 05:19:34 +0000

Bullet dodged!

Comment on He’s a Nazi. by Psyche

Psyche — Wed, 09 May 2012 13:56:12 +0000

*pat on the back* Better you know now than later!

Comment on He thinks single women REALLY love dogs. by Vannessa

Vannessa — Thu, 03 May 2012 15:59:44 +0000

Ewww. Maybe he had some weird bestiality fetish and that was his way of approaching it without flat out saying it…. creepy and gross none the less.

Comment on He’s got a sugar mama on the side. by CHATROOM

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Comment on He thinks single women REALLY love dogs. by coral

coral — Thu, 26 Apr 2012 21:50:36 +0000

ewwy, that he said this out loud! ditch him fast. He is a dawg.

Comment on His kids are dictating your relationship. by CMR

CMR — Thu, 26 Apr 2012 19:12:41 +0000

If I was you, I’d move on. I agree with several posters that he’s letting his children cross an important boundary. It’s great that he wants to put his children first, but his method is not working. You are important and should be an accepted part of his life, especially if he claims that God wants you to be a couple. It doesn’t seem like he’s doing much on his own to follow that path. Also, BIG RED FLAG, any man who feels like he should be praised for doing what is expected of him (i.e. not cheating on you) is probably not a good choice. If he loves you, truly, then you should expect him to treat you well. And he wouldn’t be keeping score and trying to make you feel like you’re being ungrateful and inferior.

Comment on He thinks single women REALLY love dogs. by Shelby

Shelby — Wed, 25 Apr 2012 12:51:38 +0000

What a weirdo! I wonder where he could possibly have gotten that idea!…maybe he knew a woman that did that!!! lol

Comment on He thinks single women REALLY love dogs. by jeffy

jeffy — Wed, 25 Apr 2012 00:49:23 +0000

I wonder what he thought if they had a cat?

Comment on He’s a self-serving control freak. by sunshine

sunshine — Fri, 20 Apr 2012 01:59:42 +0000

I am in your shoes. I really am. 7 long years. It is abuse. I have gone exactly through all this: the (very subtle but oh so destructive) controlling, fighting with my parents, whenever I want to leave, he cries and agrees it’s his fault, promises to make things better. A month down the line I am the one who caused all this, I’m the one who messed everything up (and his version of “working on the relationship” is accusing me of cheating, which I then (pathetically) try to prove is not the case). I’m the crazy one, have a temper problem and need to see a psychologist… And you know what? I did. And the psychologist showed me this “wheel of abuse”: I have experienced or am experiencing 7 out of 8 segments on the wheel. Financial and emotional abuse, isolation, everything. Even physical abuse a while back – but of course that was all my own fault (and yes, I did hit him back and felt so horrible and ashamed about it, but BRF he never apologized, always told me that I deserved it). There’s a whole bunch of other nasty stuff; financial, spreading stories about me, several people (good friends and family) he managed to get into fights with. Yes, all BRFs, but talking to the psychologist really made me realize they were BRF, and then some.
YES I KNOW – what was/am I thinking?? And I am a smart woman… have a Master’s… But you know what? I’m getting out. Am having his ass divorced any week now. Am taking out loans and getting help from my parents (who of course are happy to help out). Who cares about the money. I need to get out and become me again.
I only got to this through horrible horrible horrible circumstances that have left several people’s lives devastated. Don’t let it come to that. GO!!!